Allowing Children to Enjoy the Experience (让孩子们享受经验）

小臭贝

I think an 11-year-old kid needs to be allowed to be 11 years old. Overstructuring their lifestyle isn't the right way to approach any type of activity. A lot of time kids show promise in different areas, whether it be in swimming or school or any other activities, sports-related or not. As parents we encourage that and enjoy that. Sometimes we get a little carried away with how we think their life needs to be directed. The most important thing is that your child enjoy the experience. That's an important question to ask them and to look and see if they're really enjoying what they're doing. If they're not, and we're living our life through our children, we have to be careful. If that happens, chances are they won't remain with the sport for very long.
我想，11岁的小孩就应该是11岁的小孩！过度地重构孩子的生活并不能达到最佳的目标。很多时候孩子们显示出很多的天赋，而且这些天赋可能是属于不同领域的：游泳方面的、学习方面的、或者其他和运动有关或无关的地方。作为父母，我们鼓励他们，也和他们一起分享。然而，有些时候由于我们自己的观念，我们给孩子指导生活，在这个过程中我们打消了一些孩子的天赋。所以，最重要的是让你的孩子能够享受经验！这是一个重要的问题，你也许需要和孩子沟通或者自己来观察，来看看孩子们是否真的喜欢他们现在所做的事情。如果他们根本不喜欢，那么我们应该注意，因为这个可能是我们强行设计孩子生活的开始。在这种情况下，他们对于运动的兴趣可能根本维持不了多久！

Frank Busch, University of Arizona Head Coach
弗兰克布什，亚利桑那大学主教练。